Tag: kindness

  • Santa Claus is Coming to Town.

    Santa Claus is Coming to Town.

    The origins of Sinterklaas can be found in the stories of Saint Nicholas, a 4th-century Greek bishop from Myra, now in modern-day Turkey. Today, St. Nicholas is known all across the world and has many helpers with various names like Father Christmas, Weihnachtsmann, Ded Moroz (Father Frost), Julenissen, and many more. In Iceland, they have 13 Yule Lads they call the Jólasveinar. Here in Wasatch County, we have a few of these generous and jolly Sinterklaas’ who visit us each year in December — all of which go by the name of Santa Claus. I tried tracking all of our Santa’s helpers down to see if I could talk with them, but, as you can probably guess, Santa is a difficult man to find, especially if you don’t have a direct line to the North Pole!

    Thankfully, one of Heber Valley’s elves came to the rescue and helped me connect with City Hall’s Santa Claus, aka Anthony White, and we had a very merry conversation about his life as Santa. Like many young boys, Anthony was fascinated with magic and dabbled with it here and there. As a young adult, he took the fine art of magic more seriously, learning from others and honing his skills. Eventually, Anthony joined the International Brotherhood of Magicians, and years later, decided to become a full-time magician. He couldn’t have known then, but that decision would change his life. In the movie The Santa Clause, Tim Allen’s character, Scott Calvin, decides to put on Santa’s suit, and, by so doing, unknowingly agrees to begin the transformative journey of becoming Santa Claus. Similarly, Anthony’s decision to don a Santa Suit would take him on his own journey. He explains, “I received a call fifteen years ago from a woman who wanted to hire me for four hours. She said there would be forty kids, and I could pick up the suit from her husband. I was a little confused. When I asked what she meant, she said, ‘Well, I need you to be Santa Claus.’” Anthony almost told her no; he was a magician, not a Santa, after all. Instead, he asked for her address, put on the suit, wore the fake beard, and absolutely fell in love with being Santa! “I came home and shared the news with Mrs. Claus, who made me two beautiful suits. Of course, I couldn’t be Santa without Mrs. Claus; she is amazing.” And with that, Anthony White became Santa Claus.

    To ‘become’ Santa, one must embrace and live the true spirit of Christmas: charity, kindness, and love. Santa explains, “Most importantly, you have to love children. You will have some who are rude or throwing a temper tantrum, some who are very shy, or come from very meager or difficult circumstances. It doesn’t matter who they are or where or what they come from — you have to love them all together.” He continues, “I am there to talk with the child and create a special one-on-one moment where the child gets to speak. I find out what they want, and sometimes I hear about school and family (FYI: little ones like to tell Santa everything). It’s important to me that they know that Santa loves them.” Santa added, “I love to see the sparkle in all the children’s eyes, and by that, I mean children of all ages. Grandmas will come and sit on my lap, and their eyes are just twinkling. They say, ‘Hello Santa,’ and hug me, and I already know what they want for Christmas, but I ask them anyway. It’s always happiness for my children. It’s so much fun because that is where you really see the true spirit of Christmas — it is in the sparkle in their eyes.”

    “One of the most touching requests I get every once in a while is when a child says they want a loved one that has passed. I have a family I visit every year whose little girl asked for her daddy to come back. I looked at her, and I smiled and said, ‘You know what, your daddy will be here for Christmas. You won’t see him, but he’ll be here in spirit, and Santa knows because he talked to Mother Nature, and she said to tell you that your daddy loves you very much, and he’s very proud of you, and he will always be watching over you.’ She gave me a big hug and said thank you, Santa.’” While I pause to control my emotions, Santa shares another tender moment. He visited a family with a little boy who had brittle bone disease. When they put him on Santa’s lap, he began to shake and cry. Santa wondered, ‘Uh-Oh, what did I do wrong?’ But the little boy looked up at him and said, “I knew that if I sat on Santa’s lap, I would be happy!”

    As I do my best to act professional and not full-on sob, Santa, being Santa, knows he needs to share a jollier story. “I was between appearances and driving through an impoverished neighborhood where I pulled over to take a little winter’s nap. Suddenly, I had a very strong suspicion that I was being watched. I opened my eyes, and there were two little kids with their noses squashed against the window. I freaked out and drove off! But then I thought about those two kids and turned around. I knocked on the door, and it flew open! And, the little girl said, ‘See! I told you mom!’ I gave them each a candy cane, and instead of eating them, they placed them like prized possessions under their tiny tree. Of course, I sat down and asked them what they wanted for Christmas. It’s always interesting because the children who don’t have much want things for other people. The children wanted something nice for their mama, and after we dried our eyes, the mother came up and gave Santa a big hug. We took pictures, and, to be quite honest, I don’t think I drove on the road to my next appointment — I kind of floated along.”

    “I feel that I am supposed to be Santa Claus because I’ve been blessed with an extra amount of love.”

    When Santa is in the city, he has to hide the sleigh and reindeer and use more modern-day transportation. On these occasions, he says, “When I am Santa, I am a very kind and friendly driver.” He loves the reactions of grouchy or mad commuters when they look to see Santa waving and smiling at them. “Suddenly, they get the biggest, cheesiest grin and are happy!” He’s even been known to toss them a candy cane or two through an open car window at stoplights. Once, while driving to Provo, he forgot he was in his Santa suit and stopped to help a family change a flat tire. “The look on the little girl’s face was priceless! HO! HO! HO!” His booming laugh fills the room.

    Santa loves these unplanned moments. And so does Anthony, but he explains, “When I am Santa, I am Santa. I know it sounds weird, and it’s hard to describe, but once I put on the suit — I’m no longer there, Santa’s there.” Santa grows out his beard every year, and since he’s not a natural ‘white,’ his daughter works a little magic of her own to help him achieve his “beard that’s white.” However, he shares that there is nothing artificial about his belly that shakes like a “bowl full of jelly!” Standing at 6’ 7.5” (with his boots on) and featuring 300 pounds of jolliness, Santa cuts quite the figure. One might suppose he’d terrify little children, but Santa laughs as he says, “I get tackled almost from the moment I enter the room. I get asked at least once or twice why I am so tall. I ask the kids, ‘Well, could you see Santa sitting on a phone book trying to see over the reindeer?’ Of course, the kids don’t even know what a phone book is, but the parents nod and smile.” He makes a compelling point; it is important for Santa to see over his sleigh and reindeer – Rudolph can’t be expected to do all the guiding!

    Rudolph is the only one of Santa’s nine reindeer with a special nose that glows. When asked how it shines so bright, Santa gives the children a brief science lesson on bioluminescence, which is the ability of living organisms to produce and emit light through a chemical reaction. Just like the creatures who live in the deepest parts of the ocean, like the Mariana Trench, Rudolph can use his bioluminescence to light Santa’s sleigh on foggy nights. The other reindeer also have unique talents, but not knowing what they are is part of the magic and mystery. In addition to those nine reindeer, there are 144 reindeer in training. Santa says, “Now, you guys sometimes have reindeer here in Heber, and some of those reindeer are mine, but most are not. How the reindeer fly is a secret of Santa’s, so I have to tell the children and the adults that I’m sorry, but you can’t see any of my reindeer. But you can certainly leave them a treat or a note – they love that.” One of the most popular questions is, ‘How do you get down the chimney?’ And, ‘What if I don’t have a chimney; do you come through my front door?’ Santa explains, “It’s very interesting how that works: I get above the chimney, and I get all googly — kind of like Jell-O, and then slurp the chimney just sucks me right down! I deliver the presents, then I place a finger beside my nose, give a nod, and whoosh up the chimney I go! I always pop like a cork coming out, which is so fun. Some houses don’t have chimneys; all they have are pipes. I get sucked down those pipes, and a fireplace appears, and when I go back up — the fireplace disappears. The original Santa never went through the front door, and neither do I.” As for what happens to fire in the fireplace — well, Santa has a magic flame on the soul of his beautiful black boots that freezes and unfreezes the fire so he doesn’t get burnt — pretty clever!

    Santa also gets asked, “Do you really eat all the cookies?” And, “How many elves do you have?” Santa chuckles, “I always take a bite, but sometimes the reindeer like to taste the cookies. So, I will share it with them or save it for a midnight snack.”

    As we end our interview, Anthony expresses his gratitude for Santa, “I feel that I am supposed to be Santa Claus because I’ve been blessed with an extra amount of love, and I’m able to help people. This world that we live in – this is something Santa wouldn’t say — but let’s be honest, it can be really horrible sometimes. What I do is try to bring some happiness and joy into the world.” I can hear Anthony’s and Santa’s love for being Santa in the answer to the last question, “At the North Pole, there are 3,624 elves, and I didn’t find the elves; the elves found me. They have helped Mrs. Claus and I become who we are today. The elves and the children are the ones who taught me the magic of Christmas.”

  • The Best That You Can Do

    The Best That You Can Do

    The human mind is fascinating. I marvel at how this wad of grey matter, with the subsequent spinal fluid and nerve network, encapsulates billions of individuals’ unique souls and personalities. As a hobbyist, I have dabbled with some light study of psychology and neurophysiology to understand self and core human interaction better. These fields are massive, with actively evolving comprehensions and theories of how and why. There are still many undiscovered facets of the mind that cannot be empirically quantified or defined. We have all had moments when a forgotten ‘toy from the attic of life’ falls loose, and we surprise ourselves with the randomness our minds can produce.

    “Love and hate exist like oil and water in a closed container – they don’t mix.”

    Multiple sources have told me throughout my life that we all possess unique talents. One of my innate abilities is that music, literature, and imagery are easy for me to categorize and recall. This knack is generally good and suits me well in trivia games and conversation. However, it may be more difficult for my wife, who must think I suffer from madness with the aimless and arbitrary references I tend to produce on a whim. Furthermore, the fact that I may forget what I had for lunch yesterday mystifies her further when I cite musical, pop culture, and art-historical references from the depth of Western civilization.

    One such moment occurred a month or so back. I woke up in the middle of the night with cerebral echoes of Christopher Cross crooning about being caught between ‘The Moon and New York City.’ Messed up… right? What alternate reality spawned this 40-year-old pop reverberation, and why is it in my head? Bear in mind that I am more of a psychedelic rock dystopian sci-fi guy, NOT a 1980’s soft rock rom-com fan. Nevertheless, the earworm was writhing around in my subconscious, and there was nothing to do but free the serpent by airing the tune. As a youth, this would have required a trip to the shopping mall to purchase the official soundtrack to the 1981 film Arthur, starring Dudley Moore and Liza Minnelli. With today’s wonderfully convenient streaming services, the media was available with a quick voice prompt, and I moved to resolve the situation permanently while preparing for my morning shift.

    So there I was, taking an early morning hot shower while laying down some tight karaoke tracks with Christopher to ‘The Best That You Can Do’ — on repeat.

    Once in your life, you find her

    Someone that turns your heart around

    The next thing you know, you’re closing down the town

    Wake up and it’s still with you

    Even though you left her way across town

    Wondering to yourself, “Hey, what’ve I found?”

    In that nostalgic moment of star-crossed love overpowering the world’s desire for wealth, ‘she found… me.’ Desperate to excise the demon, I had failed to acknowledge the rest of the family, also getting ready for the day. With the jaded skepticism that only years of marriage can propagate, my wife demanded, “What on Earth are you listening to?” Well, naturally… the soundtrack to the film Arthur, Dear. You see:

    Arthur he does as he pleases

    All of his life, he’s masked his choice and

    Deep in his heart, he’s just, he’s just a boy

    Living his life one day at a time

    And showing himself a really good time

    Laughing about the way they want him to be

    The exchange ended with an audible sigh of disgust and, quite possibly, the world’s most expansive ‘eye roll’ on record. The film Arthur must not have received the same media exposure in Western Canada — the only plausible solution to such a reaction.

    As unique individuals possessing singular minds, we must acknowledge that, more often than not, ‘The best that you can do is fall in love.’ I dare say we have societally forgotten that message in recent years. ‘I know it’s crazy, but it’s true.’

    The stumbling block facing our global community in the past several decades is that our programming has taught us to despise distinctiveness and opposing viewpoints instead of celebrating individuals for their genuine attributes, conventional or otherwise. Ironically, much of that programming has been labeled under the banner of love — but as a loving person, you should hate others who don’t believe in the brand of ‘love’ that you do.

    The problem with this line of rhetoric is that love and hate are antonyms. You cannot live ‘in love’ and hate your neighbor within the same headspace. Love and hate exist like oil and water in a closed container — they don’t mix. The two liquids oppose each other at a molecular level. Trying to blend them makes a murky mess that may take hours, even days, to congeal into the previously identifiable layers.

    The net result of this popularized love-hate fallacy is core identity confusion. The uncertainty of self leads people to seek strength in numbers. Groups form and create polarized tribes of similarly agitated humanity with opposing camps believing they each exist on a moral high ground of love and tolerance. At the same time, their inner cores are embodied in the spirit of confusion and resentment. Being that it is easier to be critical of others than self-assess or self-amend, each camp readily accuses the other of being the very thing they manifest — hatred by way of terminal intolerance.

    Today’s youth are victims of a decades-long cultural civil war created and perpetuated for no better reason than to distract a populace from questionable policy decisions. They have and continue to suffer from the stress and trauma of this manipulation in the ever-sensitive ‘coming-of-age’ period of their lives. As adults, we suffer from bitterness and disenfranchised notions about how things ‘used to be.’ These crippling feelings are characterized by doubt, fear, intolerance, and hatred — the opposite of hope, courage, acceptance and love.

    Regrettably, these negative attributes have become culturally systemic within our war-weary populace and manifest themselves daily, even in our quaint mountain valley. Some refer to this as the ‘mental health crisis.’ Impatience and disregard for others can be noted with every drive across town and in every place of business. We are not immune to this global trend of fear and resentment in the Heber Valley.

    Diving back into the dusty attic of musical randomness, the second single from Styx’s triple platinum album The Grand Illusion, released in 1977, is titled “Fooling Yourself (The Angry Young Man).”  After an optimistic and upbeat synth intro, the track begins with singer and composer Tommy Shaw stating, “Relax… Take it easy…,” a sentiment I have found myself reciting on a near daily basis to those closest to me. Tommy goes on to state:

    You see the world through your cynical eyes

    You’re a troubled young man I can tell

    You’ve got it all in the palm of your hand

    But your hand’s wet with sweat and your head needs a rest

    And you’re fooling yourself if you don’t believe it

    You’re kidding yourself if you don’t believe it

    As I listen to this song today, I can’t help but take a moment to look into the mirror. Do I find myself regularly irritable? Do I perceive the world with cynical eyes? If so, is it truth or conspiracy? If the cynicism is justifiable, is there anything I can do to change the reality? The absolute truth is that ‘you’ve got it all in the palm of your hand,’ and you are empowered to define your reality.

    Whatever the source of irritation — a life-altering or relationship-redefining emotional reaction will not help your overall condition. Psychologically speaking, new emotions are generally short-lived — like 90 seconds short. Attaching the emotion to an event facilitates memory persistence. As the mind revisits the event, the memory of the emotion is attached. This allows the emotion to be indefinitely resurrected. Neural plasticity is created as the synaptic trail is frequented, like a well-worn single track on a mountain hillside. Over time and repetition, plasticity can reprogram the mind into a new trail related to that emotion. This pattern can be replicated for any emotion, positive or negative.

    Get up, get back on your feet

    You’re the one they can’t beat and you know it

    Come on, let’s see what you’ve got

    Just take your best shot and don’t blow it

    Should you discover that your world is more cynical than it used to be, you may actively choose to ‘get back on your feet.’ Adopt the mentality that you control your destiny and are accountable for your actions, and take the appropriate measures to create daily patterns that will facilitate the outlook or perception you desire.

    As citizens of the Heber Valley, we truly live in a privileged community. We should feel gratitude, generosity, and reciprocated kindness for our fortunate circumstances. Even for those who may feel disadvantaged, a brief hyperopic view will reveal that we are some of the most blessed people on the planet. Be humble, respectful, and empathetic to avoid petty quarrels with your neighbors or fellow citizens. Let us adopt a mentality befitting of our surroundings. Fall in love with the Heber Valley and everything in it. After all, ‘when you get caught between the Moon and [Heber City], the best that you can do, is fall in love.’

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